What could have been might not be as great as you think

By Rick Curl
Posted 2/12/20

How many times have you heard yourself say, if “I only knew then what I know now” and then continue to pontificate on the situation in your mind? Myself, at least a bazillion, maybe more.

It …

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What could have been might not be as great as you think

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How many times have you heard yourself say, if “I only knew then what I know now” and then continue to pontificate on the situation in your mind? Myself, at least a bazillion, maybe more.

It certainly is an interesting question, and one we really can’t be sure of liking when it comes to an outcome. I mean if you could go back and change anything in your past, would you really do it? Especially, if it had consequences attached to it which would affect the place you are right now?

To give you a hypothetical, suppose when you were in your teens and made a decision to not do something: say you go back, and instead of going to college, you go to work. While that could be pretty mundane, consider this, if you met your spouse while you were in college, would you have met them anyway? I kind of doubt it.

That leaves you with a couple of paths to follow. First, in your changed world, you might never meet the love of your life and you might just drift from one job to the next, never really finding that satisfying part of your life.

In your changed world, you might have saved up the dough you needed and started a small business. Would you have met your love then? That one you may never really be able to determine; you might just have become a very good business person with lots of friends, but no true love.

The other path, which might have some kind of twisting turn to bring you back to the path you are on now, who knows. You might have gotten fed up with your job and decided to go college after all, met the love of your life and started a family.

That also goes to your changed world: what if you and your love decided kids were not the best option for you? Instead you chose not to have kids and went ahead into the future as just a couple?

Your son or daughter, who is the apple of your eye, might not have ever been born and worse, you might not ever have had the joy of being a parent and eventually a grandparent.

Of course, in your changed world, you might have ended up with the same anyway, who knows.

I guess what I’m trying to say is sometimes it can be fun trying to imagine what it would have been like to make different choices over the ones you made. But in the end I think it might be the best thing to just simply appreciate how your life did unfold. I mean, unless you’re in a bad situation now, would you really want to see the things you have in this world, not be there after all?

I know this sounds kind of science fiction-like, but really if you could change what you have now, would you do it knowing the outcome you have now is pretty good?

Rick Curl is a reporter with the Daily Record. He can be reached by telephone at 910-230-2037. He can be reached by email at rcurl@mydailyrecord.com.

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